Who would you refer to as your friends? Is it the individual who spends the most time with you? Or the person who’s always there in times of difficulty? Is that a real good definition of a friend or just a construed significance of what a true friend ought to be?
And that will not change the response you’ve got inside your own ideas. What do you really feel a true friend is, what do you think yourself a true friend to be.
Reason why I bring this up because, someone I once thought to be a great friend of minewhen I actually paid close attention also, wasn’t a very good friend to me. My definition of a friend is somebody who has similar views and beliefs near your own. Someone you can relate to and that you think understands how you feel.
To further elaborate on this, a friend should be a give-and-take kind of connection, rather than solely giving or taking, but it has to be equal on both sides of the spectrum. Without this equilibrium someone has been taken advantage of, where regrettably a lot of error a friendship to be and believe that is how it ought to be.
Additionally a friend should be one to promote and support a friend’s decision, if they understand and believe in their buddy’s decision. There’ll be times where friends will disagree, which is okay, everyone has the right to select for themselves. However, to still believe in them, despite the fact that they do not particular care for the cause, is exactly what a friendship is all about.
In my situation I had a buddy, let’s name him Bat Poop to secure his name here. I soon discovered how much of friend he had been when he came in to live with us.
At first things seemed great, our arrangement was for him to get back on his feet and find a place of his own. I know he had to recoup some funds out of his job prior to getting a place, and so I knew it may be a month or two or so before he could make some substantial steps forward. A couple of months passed and it appeared like nothing more had happened, he had been making himself at home, and not much progress on trying to proceed. Started making him pay rent to help matters rate along, and cover his expenses he’s accrued while in our home.
And this time, we were farther from being connected than when we were not in exactly the same household. Come to find out he’s been spending his time constructing another relationship after he emerged from the one he’s been in. Wanted the best for him, but advised it might not be the perfect time to start starting another relationship.
I don’t understand how it came about, but it did. When you believe you’re friends you’re sometimes blinded for their manipulated ways. Though it was short before they got their own place together it happened.
To bring you to the current, Bob and his new woman, who I will call Bertha, awakened, and took all his stuff. Despite the fact that I cautioned him about the connection to start with, I was there for him. Now to back track a bit I got involved with my own company and brought him along too, since I knew it might help him as it’s helped us.
Now I know that it seems as if I’ve drifted far from class here on whom our real friends are, but this example explains more than any words I could write, through personal experience. At this time I realized he wasn’t my friend, because he didn’t support me, but more importantly he did not believe he would ever escape the 9 to 5 rat race that they most people today believe is the only alternative. I didn’t realize just how much of a friend he was not until I myself started to grow personally.
I say all this to say, our friends are those who beliefs amounts match up, and they aren’t constantly taking, but giving and sharing. A person who believes in you for better, and has attained it their selves, and gives you information to succeed also. One that can help you understand your full potential and allow you to understand you can have all you would like.
Although I do not know youpersonally, or may never meet you, I believe in you. If you’re looking for a means to do this for yourself than I will be more than delighted to assist you get there. Or if you’re already on your way, keep going. The only way you could possibly fail is if you stop.